Why is is so many people in the self-defense world are fixated on surviving a situation they’ve put themselves into by doing stupid things instead of learning how not to do the dumb?
And it really goes beyond just people in the self-defense world.
There’s a mentality going around today that “I can do whatever I want”. I can act how I want, talk how I want, dress like I want. Well sure, but then you also should be prepared to reap the consequences of your actions; or at least not be surprised when bad things happen to you. More so, you should be honest with yourself that your actions and choices may well have consequences that you may not want. If you’re willing to live with that risk and can be a grown-up, accepting and rolling with the bad things when they happen, then OK. But if you are going to just blame someone else for the consequences of your (poor) choices, then maybe you should try to make better choices (or accept the world doesn’t revolve around you).
Yes, other people should work to be better behaved. Yes it would be great if we truly could do “whatever we wanted”. But there are people in this world that are not well-behaved; in fact, there are people in this world with evil intent — and to them you look like dinner.
The best self-defense is to never have to. Avoidance is a HUGE part of self-defense, and really one of the first and most important things you can do to stay safe. I’ve covered this before:
Always remember John Farnam’s famous quip: “Don’t go to stupid places; don’t associate with stupid people; don’t do stupid things. We will add to that, be in bed by 10 o’clock.” That’s pretty much awareness, avoidance, deterrence, de-escalation, and it’s what helps you live a safer, better life.
In the end, it’s your life. Remember that you are in control of a lot of it, and your choices directly affect the quality of your life. Make a habit of learning and practicing “how not to do the dumb”, and just watch how your quality of life goes up.