Things holding you back

I hate to admit it, but I’ve held myself back a lot in life. And now, a lot of life has passed me by, but at least I’ve gotten over holding myself back. But perhaps I wouldn’t be so driven now if I hadn’t held myself back before, having the anger and regret of what I missed to motivate me to not make that same mistake again.

While Paul Carter writes about “The things that are going to hold you back in training” from an exercise/powerlifting/weightlifting/gym perspective, the issues here really apply to anything life. Even if you don’t lift (bro), you should still give the article a read because:

  • Information overload
  • Conflicting goals
  • Inability to embrace discomfort
  • Success
  • Confidence
  • Inconsistency
  • Listening to the wrong people
  • Life

… hopefully you can see those eight things apply universally as things that can and do hold people — probably yourself — back.

The one that speaks most to me these days is “inability to embrace discomfort”.

I had to embrace something I wasn’t really comfortable doing in order to get to where I needed to be.

And THAT is what lifting and life is going to be about sometimes. I could machine gun off a million cliche’s about that right now but I will spare you. The point is, nothing that is worth attaining will come easy. If it does, good for you. However 99.99% of the time getting to a place you desire to be will mean spending a lot of time embracing discomfort.

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Great things generally just don’t fall on our doorstep via UPS.  If you want to find your own personal greatness, then get comfortable with being uncomfortable.  The amount of discomfort you are willing to submit yourself to is generally in parallel with the amount of greatness you’re trying to attain.

Lifting weights has taught me much in life. While I’ve lifted on and off since I was a teenager, never has it been as profound in my life as the past 3.5 years. If I wanted to get stronger, I had to embrace the discomfort of heavy weights on my back, the fear of getting pinned or injury. Or just the simple hard work that has to come, because getting stronger isn’t easy. But I’ve learned to embrace it, and I’m getting stronger as a result.

Or more immediate is my fat-loss effort. I’m down 20 lbs. in just under 3 months. It’s not been easy, and just about every day contains some level of discomfort. Lord it’d be so much easier right now to eat a tub of ice cream, but that ice cream is what created my tub. I have to go through this discomfort. I know there are many more months ahead of this discomfort (probably at least 6 more), but I will never achieve my goals if I don’t go through this discomfort. And yes, what makes it easier to manage is to embrace it instead of fighting it. No it doesn’t make it any more enjoyable, but when you know the pain will bring your greatness, the pain is easier to bear.

I think about my recent career change to having my own business, basically going indie/freelancer making my own products and taking on contract work. I put it off for too many years because I didn’t want the discomfort for myself or my family. But the discomfort of not doing it became greater, and so here I am. And yes, the startup of it all has been quite a struggle, filled with daily discomfort that I never imagined. But that’s what keeps it exciting, and that’s what causes me to learn and grow. It’s like the scene in the movie Parenthood when Steve Martin’s character finally learns to embrace the rollercoaster.

That’s not the ending scene, but it’s the seed for the allusion. And grandma’s right:

You know, it was just so interesting to me that a ride could make me so frightened, so scared, so sick, so excited, and so thrilled all together! Some didn’t like it. They went on the merry-go-round. That just goes around. Nothing. I like the roller coaster. You get more out of it.

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2014-10-23 training log

Pretty evident I was distracted today. I’m pressing and it felt really light, really good… then I realized I had been only doing 5 reps instead of 8. sigh So I just cranked out a few more sets of 8. groan

Just got a lot on my mind from work and life and whatever. So today was just in there, do the work, and go. But I am liking getting back to some direct shoulder work, and it does feel good to press again. I keep wondering if I should go back to 5/3/1, but I honestly think I get about the same results from Base Building and Strong-15, but I don’t feel as beat-up. So same results and less downside? Yeah, I’m just going to keep on with Paul’s programming until I truly see reason to stop.

In other news, my fat loss seems to have stagnated, so after 20 lbs and 3 months I’m guessing Nick’s going to want to put me on maintenance for a month. We’ll see how that phase goes because diet will still be programmed; I’m curious to see how it will be.

Based upon Paul Carter’s Basebuilding

  • Press
    • bar x 5
    • bar x 5
    • 65 x 5
    • 85 x 5
    • 95 x 5
    • 95 x 5
    • 95 x 5
    • 95 x 8
    • 95 x 8
    • 95 x 8
  • Bent Laterals
    • 5e x 20
    • 5e x 20
    • 5e x 20
    • 5e x 20
    • 5e x 20
  • Upright Rows
    • 60 x 15
    • 60 x 15
    • 60 x 15
    • 60 x 12
  • Triceps Pressdowns
    • 45 x 25
    • 45 x 25
    • 45 x 21
    • 45 x 12
  • When you’re dead, you’re dead; until then, keep fighting.

    When you’re dead, you’re dead; until then, keep fighting.

    No matter your background, no matter who you are, what circles you run in, whatever it is you do in your life and world, this maxim applies.

    You see, when you are dead, and I’m talking heart stops beating, blood stops circulating, lungs stop breathing, brain stops functioning, whatever and however you want to define it, but you are truly dead and there’s no ability for you to undertake (further) action. Well, when THAT point comes, then you are dead and obviously you can’t do any more.

    But until that time comes, you aren’t dead. And so you must keep fighting.

    Certainly this applies in self-defense contexts, and I’ve said this phrase in numerous classes. Recently Greg Ellifritz posted this story:

    A 57-year-old Bronx livery driver chased a robber who had just shot him Wednesday, police sources said.

    … Sources said the robber shot the driver in the shoulder and the hand and fled.

    The cabbie drove after the fleeing suspect for half a block along Longfellow and struck him with the car, sources said.

    Driver was shot, but wasn’t dead. So he kept fighting, chasing his robber and hitting him with his car! There are countless stories like this, where someone is attacked but keeps fighting and as a result are able to win, or at least survive the encounter. But as well, there are many stories of people attacked, maybe shot, but despite their wounds being minor or certainly survivable, they give up and die as a result.

    When you’re dead, you’re dead; until then, keep fighting.

    A couple workouts in the gym recently were quite difficult. 100 reps of something, if you really work hard, you use a challenging weight, it can be an excruciating experience. Your brain starts to tell you to stop, your body starts to scream in pain. It really becomes a mental game to get 100 reps. Yes you could give in, but the reality is that it’s all in your head; if you really can’t do another rep, then your body will stop moving and truly you won’t be able to do another. But until then, you keep pushing on through the pain. Granted this is just  lifting weights, but it’s a good way to learn to accept the pain and keep pressing through it. To not stop until truly you cannot continue, not to give in to other factors that try to hold you back.

    When you’re dead, you’re dead; until then, keep fighting.

    When you’re in business for yourself, it can be tough. Startups will struggle. You will run out of money. You will wonder how you will pay your bills, both business and maybe personal. If you have dependents (e.g. children), will you be able to keep them from suffering too? Sure you could give up, but why?

    When you’re dead, you’re dead; until then, keep fighting.

    Really, it doesn’t matter the context, the situation, whatever it may be in life.

    When you’re dead, you’re dead; until then, keep fighting.

    2014-10-21 training log

    Time’s short this morning. Get in, lift, get out.

    Squats feel strong. I will bump up the weight next session.

    Sumo’s feel better each week. For sure, I’m better built for conventional, but this continues to be an interesting experiment. I do think sumos may play well as an assistance exercise for me, but needs more time to know. Today tho I opted to work up a little further, and the 315 went up very easy. Next week I think I’ll try to do a further workup until I miss to see really where a good working weight is for me, then do a more formal programming around that.

    Based upon Paul Carter’s Basebuilding

    • Squats (model 1)
      • bar x 5
      • bar x 5
      • 150 x 5
      • 175 x 4
      • 205 x 3
      • 225 x 2
      • 260 x 1
      • 180 x 5
      • 180 x 5
      • 180 x 5
      • 180 x 5
      • 180 x 5
    • Sumo Deadlift
      • 135 x 5
      • 135 x 5
      • 185 x 5
      • 185 x 5
      • 225 x 3
      • 225 x 3
      • 275 x 1
      • 295 x 1
      • 315 x 1

    2014-10-20 training log

    It was a good day.

    I do think model 2 is working better for me, along with some adjusted assistance work (like the “350 method” stuff). I’m going to bump up the weight next week.

    Note to self: keep squeezing the bar like you’re trying to crush it — helps alleviate pain in the wrist, as well as makes it easier to press. SRSLY. I get a good grip on the bar, but I often forget to crush it. My wrist started hurting right out of the gate, so I kept on crushing the bar with my grip — gotta remember to do that.

    In related news, my fat loss is starting to stall — it’s a natural consequence. The plan is to keep going week-to-week and see how things progress. When it looks like a good solid stall, we’ll go maintenance for a month. I’m dabbling with the idea during that time about changing up my lifting as well. Maybe a Strong-15 short cycle, maybe more a mass-building phase. I don’t know. It’d only be for 4 weeks, so I even debate if I should bother (instead, use the added fuel to just smash things). Just a thought rolling in my head.

    Based upon Paul Carter’s Basebuilding

    • Bench Press (model 2)
      • bar x 5
      • bar x 5
      • 115 x 5
      • 130 x 4
      • 155 x 3
      • 170 x 2
      • 190 x 1
      • 200 x 1
      • 190 x 5
      • 190 x 5
      • 190 x 5
      • 170 x 5
      • 170 x 5
      • 170 x 5
      • 135 x 20 (AMRAP)
    • Incline Press (350 Method)
      • 85 x 20
      • 85 x 14
      • 85 x 12
    • Machine Flies
      • 90 x 10
      • 90 x 10
      • 90 x 10
      • 90 x 10

    Mindset wins

    [Lemmy] said that Sid Vicious would throw himself at guys much bigger than he was and they backed off because they could tell that Sid had no fear

    That’s a story that Lemmy told Henry Rollins. It was just a passing comment in this article (which is about music elitism, an interesting article in its own right), but it stood out to me.

    Sid Vicious was a tall but skinny dude. From a purely physical standpoint, there wasn’t much intimidating about him. But that he threw himself at bigger guys and they backed off because they could tell Sid had no fear? What might that tell you about the importance of mindset in being successful?

    Sunday Metal – My Favorite Monster Magnet

    Let’s keep it simple today, because it’s hard for me to choose.

    The “Superjudge” album is probably my favorite Monster Magnet album — I could listen to it endlessly. “Cage Around the Sun” is such a cool song. But if there’s any song that I think sums up Dave Wyndorf’s drug-induced lyrical voyages, it’s “Face Down”

    “I’m sucking up more karma than I need, so have a supernova on me” it just one of those cool lines that you’ll never top.

    But the other Monster Magnet song I find myself always coming back to is “Bummer”

    There are so many people that go to bed with Lucifer, then cry cry cry when they don’t greet the day with God.

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