From the Baltimore Zen Center, The High Road.

Am I cold? I do my best to just be. If I’m cold, I’ll warm myself. If I’m warm, I’ll cool myself.

This leads me to think about what we teach our children. I know I used to tell my kids to never hit, violence was not the answer. My experience has shown most parents/adults believe and teach the same. Over the years I’ve come to take a different view, that yes sometimes violence is the right answer. Yes you have to do your best to avoid it, most any other option is preferable. But sometimes a punch in the nose is the correct response. The tough part is learning when it is the correct response.

Go read. Then think about it. Perhaps you’ll see what I mean.