Something we could all use more of right now
There’s a lot going on right now in the world.
There’s the whole handling of the Recoil Magazine flap.
There’s the new unrest and violence in the Arab world, towards Americans.
The list can go on.
The thing that gets me about it all? Well…
I’ve been listening to Dale Carnegie’s book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” (yes, listen… audiobook while I’m stuck in traffic). It’s a book I’ve started many times but haven’t finished for whatever reason, but every time I read it well… I always start from the beginning, and chapter 1 has gotten a lot of re-reads.
The first thing Carnegie speaks of? “Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.”
And it rolls on from there.
Hearing all of these things from Carnegie and then seeing how these situations have been handled? It bothers me.
It’s about how we choose to go about expressing our disagreement.
I know I’m far from perfect. I’ve got a record right here in this blog about many things, so I’m sure someone can easily go searching through the archives and find enough examples of me being an asshole or calling someone out, criticizing and condemning. I’m sure this article itself will be construed as violating those very things. I know I need to make a better effort, and yes… just like I’m working on my dedication to lifting, to dry fire practice, to my side-projects… and yes, perhaps now to how I work to win friends and influence people. I know I’ve got a lot to learn, and I know I can always improve myself.
But just reading/listening to Carnegie’s words? Gee… if we could all behave as he teaches, yeah… we’d remove a lot of resentment and ugly in the world, and build things up a lot better.
If you haven’t read the book, I recommend it.